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STUPID? Or in possession of Different Gifts?

By | May 29th, 2017|Categories: Adult, Childrens Therapy, Couples Therapy, Family Therapy, Grief Therapy, Parent|

Stupid? Or, in possession of different gifts?   Lately, I have heard many of the following phrases a lot: ~He is so stupid, he just can’t seem to understand~ ~She is as dumb as a box of rocks~ ~I just can’t work with this person, she has zero intelligence~   When we speak about our fellow humans like this, we are automatically going into a 1-up position. This position is about arrogance and grandiosity.

D J Trump is not your Savior!

By | May 29th, 2017|Categories: Adult, Grief Therapy, International, SPIRITUALITY, World|

D J Trump is NOT your savior     He pretends to be a "savior" for all of those who voted for him. Those who voted for him so want to believe that there is one person that can do "it" for them so they don't have to, they will be sorely disappointed.   We all have to do our own inner work and find our own "inner savior”. All great spiritual leaders have

“Listen, Listen, Listen, to my Heart-Song”

By | April 4th, 2017|Categories: Adult, Childrens Therapy, Family Therapy, Grief Therapy, Parent, SPIRITUALITY|

“Listen, Listen, Listen to my HEART-SONG” When I first found Unity 37 years ago, I went to an event that is similar to what they call today, The Dances of Universal Peace. The Definition of this is: “a spiritual practice employing singing and dancing the sacred phrases of the world's religions. Their intention is to raise consciousness and promote peace between diverse religions according to one stated goal. They combine chants from many world

~FAKE COMMUNICATION!~

By | March 26th, 2017|Categories: Adult, Childrens Therapy, Couples Therapy|

~Fake communication~   As a therapist of over 30 years, I have seen many couples in my practice. The first thing I ask both members of a couple is what their goals are for counseling, and 90% of all couples say that communication is their number one goal. Then I tell the couple how real communication happens:  Both partners need to be fully present and not doing anything else. Both partners have to be

“I can understand their grief, BUT!!!..”……….is a way to say, I don’t want to hear about your loss.

By | March 6th, 2017|Categories: Adult, Childrens Therapy, Couples Therapy, Family Therapy, Grief Therapy|

“I CAN UNDERSTAND THEIR GRIEF,……But” This phrase makes my blood boil. And I heard it numerous times on February 29th on the A.M. news shows by Republicans who loved #45’s speech on February 28th 2017. One Republican leader said: “I can understand their grief” when they were  talking about the family of   slain Navy Seal, William “Ryan” Owens in the recent raid on Yemen. This leader went on to say: “there was an objective

The Problem with Trumpian Thinking, part two: No one knows your needs but you!

By | February 26th, 2017|Categories: Adult, Childrens Therapy, Couples Therapy, Family Therapy|

The Problem with Trumpian Thinking, part two. As I said in my earlier blog on Trumpian thinking, there is a major challenge when one person thinks they know what is right for anyone but themselves. I outlined these problems in the earlier blog but in this one I am going to address the subject of needs. When someone believes they know what another needs, they learn to not listen when the other talks about