There is most likely no adult in the world who has not heard about the missing plane and has not shared some thoughts about this. I, personally, have been watching as much coverage as possible on CNN. They seem to have the latest coverage and the most accurate coverage as well.

The blog today is not to entertain theories about what caused the plane to go missing. There is enough of that on all news stations.

My purpose today is to address the grief that not only the victim’s families are dealing with  but also the the grief that the entire world is feeling.

Let us begin with a definition of grief taken from the Grief Recovery Institute in Ca:   “Grief is the normal and natural emotional reaction to loss or change of any kind. Of itself, grief is neither a pathological condition nor a personality disorder.”

Again, Grief is the normal and natural reaction to any kind of loss.  This reaction is different for everyone and the reaction is within everyone. That is, we cannot deal with and heal our grief by focusing outside of ourselves.  Grief is about painful feelings that spring from within after a loss has occurred.

However, we humans have chosen to deal with grief by focusing on changing the outer. When we feel mad, we want to blame someone or some incident for how we feel. When we are sad, we choose t o once again focus on the outer loss rather than turn within. When we are afraid, we often  try to ignore our fear rather than first seek to see if what we fear is an actual threat or if not a threat to calm ourselves emotionally.

Thus, we see a common occurrence with what the victim’s families are doing with the governments involved with the missing flight. They are first  and foremost finding a way to blame the government for the problem.  Now the governments involved may have been remiss. Again, that is not the purpose of this blog. The purpose  is to point out that even if the governments were remiss, blaming the government  will not help their grieving process.

To heal our losses and thereby deal with our grief, we must be willing to focus within. We must be willing to identify and deal with all of our feelings that arise as a result of the loss. There is a wonderful process that the Grief Recovery Institute has created that will enable a person to successfully identify, deal with and heal from the loss. It is a simple process.  It does not feel easy because this turning within is so unfamiliar. We humans have learned to suppress and repress all feelings that we don’t like. We are taught by our caretakers to do this and we teach our children to do this. Then when we are faced with a large loss that  seems to impossible to deal with, we do what we have always done and blame something in the outer. However, when the large losses come upon us, we find that trying to deal with something that has taken place within( a reaction to a loss) cannot be dealt with by trying to  fix it in the outer. It can only be fixed by turning within.  And, there is help! We can heal from all loss and it is time to stand up and be willing to truly deal with our own feelings, our own losses and we can do this if we are wiling to find our courage to  look within. The Grief Recovery Handbook will tell you how to do this.