Recently, I saw this as a post on Face Book about grief.

“Grief is not something that you complete.

But rather you endure.

Grief is not a task to finish, and move on, but an element of yourself-

An Alteration of your being, a new way of seeing

A new definition of self”

There was no author but many people (maybe 100) agreed with this post about grief.

Seeing this post and then seeing the large number of people that agreed with it and “liked” it, IS WHY I lead grief groups. It is why at least 50% of my work with clients is about helping them move through grief in such a way that it makes them stronger and more resilient and more aware of their dreams than if they had not ignited the courage to go through the grief process rather than simply endure it as this post suggests.

My definition of dysfunctional whether it is about a family or a small business or even a large company is that the individuals do not know how to solve problems, that is, they think they must endure………..

I did not end the previous sentence with a period because the endurance can go on and on and on without an ending in sight. Grief can then be like a black shroud that we wear through life and it gets larger and heavier with each loss that we experience but not deal with.

I am a Grief specialist and certified with the Grief Recovery Institute, and as this specialist, I help people every single day get beyond this myth that grief is something that must be endured. I found this book, when my sister at the age of 45 died. Her light went out way too soon and yet my clients tell me, “you and your sister are healing the hearts of grievers everyday now and so she lives on in your work”.

Grief is the normal and natural response to any type of loss, whether the loss is of a loved one passing, a job loss, relationship break up or any of the 40 or more losses that are discussed in the Grief Recovery Handbook by John James and Russell Friedman. This book is a short and easy to read handbook outlining the steps that one can take to identify their losses and heal from the effects of the loss.

If one chooses to do this, they not only deal with the loss but the process helps them get in touch with their Hero’s heart. In many cases, they may not have been in touch with their hero’s heart before they chose to take these steps. When one connects to their hero’s heart, they are connecting to their own authentic self and when one does this, they discover inner strengths, inner dreams and inner gifts that they may not have discovered before they did their grief work.

I invite you to get the Grief Recovery Handbook today and not just today, please get it right now! There will never be a better moment than this very moment. Then, if you so desire, please call me and let me be your coach as you work through the steps from this book. What you will discover is that “Grief is love”, ((spoken by Albus Dumbledore in the Harry Potter series), and if you choose to undertake the true journey into and through grief, your life will be touched and therefore transformed by the transforming power of love.  All you need to do right now, is be willing.