~YOU HAVE ONE CHOICE~

Yes, that is what I said; you have one choice in life in order to not be a victim. The simplest definition of being a victim is to not have a choice. A child that is abused or neglected and is under the age of 18 does not have a choice. I did not make this up, Pia Mellody, world renowned author, workshop presenter, and pioneer in the field of co-dependency, tells us that when a  child is abused and under the age of 18, they are being victimized.  Period.

Today’s blog is not about abuse and neglect of children.

It is about your one choice in life and if you make it, you will   not  be a victim.

Your one choice in life is to choose to be connected to yourself. In connecting to yourself, you choose to honor your thoughts, your feelings, your perceptions, your history, your needs, your desires, dreams and goals. And, we can make this choice everyday and many times a day. If we choose to be connected, we are able to know what our needs are and to take action on them. If we choose to disconnect from ourselves and our needs, thoughts, feelings, perceptions, then we are continually jerked around by everything outside of ourselves, which is the essence of codependency.

Mark Nepo, another world renowned author, presenter and leader in the healing of humankind, said this in his, BOOK OF AWAKENING, (page 411):

“Somehow our need for love gives tremendous power to the opinions of others, and so, we are required to guard against turning our lives over to the expectations of others”

He also said on this same page about this topic:

“…………there is a constant elusive heroism in being who we are, especially when we are misunderstood, judged or ignored”.

So, my friend, as we prepare to say good bye to 2015 in order to greet 2016, I invite you to be a hero in your own life in 2016. I invite you, me, all of us, to be willing to find that “elusive heroism” that comes when we strive to be ourselves.

The easiest way to begin this endeavor is to choose to be connected to your feelings, which then leads to your thoughts; and in this, you will connect to your needs and perceptions. Then, magically, you will begin to discover a dream that was waiting on the back burner of your consciousness. This dream is meant to be fulfilled and the first step in its fulfillment is to choose to re-connect to the fullness, to the wholeness that is you.

THE WORLD IS WAITING FOR YOU TO BE WHO YOU ARE…….