Lately, I have heard many people who just dabble in Spirituality or who read articles about Psychology speak as if they are suddenly an expert on personal Growth.  Unfortunately for them and everyone around them, this is a dangerous practice.

One example of this practice is the way these types of  individuals talk about being here and now in this moment.

The dabblers speak as if nothing in the past matters and they dismiss people who have feelings about something in the past.  They put down people whom they have done dismissive or unconscious acts around as if the one who was in the line of fire of their unconscious acts is less “spiritually aware”, or they would let it go and be here in this moment.  They like to freely spout affirmations that sound good but they have no idea what they really mean because they have not done the inner work to truly apply them to themselves. They simply like applying them to others so they can asphalt their own feelings along with the feelings of  the one whom they are spraying the asphalt on.

  And, I have seen many true seekers do their own “forgivenenss work” and then continue in a relationship with the unconscious dabbler and this gives the dabbler positive reinforcement that their unconscious act really did not matter. That is, they unsconsciously tell themselves that what they did was alright because, “Hey, all that matters is this moment”. They love handing out the latest “affirmation du jour”, to the one that was “harmed” by their unconsciouness. 

They also cover any feelings of guilt they may have with another affirmation for themselves. For example, they may tell themselves:  “well I was doing the best I can, I did not intend to harm that person and after all, EVERYONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THEMSELVES; IF THEY HAVE PAIN OVER WHAT I DID, THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM……………….

I call this technique putting an asphalt of affirmations over something that needs to be looked at, dealt with and healed. If we can summon our courage, we can look at or own behavior and see how we are unconsciously hurting others. And, on the other side of the coin, if we are continually experiencing pain around others, it is our responsibility to tell this person and if they dont stop, we need to look at why we are in relationship with someone who does not really care how their actions are affecting us here and now and in this now moment.

If we choose to be present to this NOW MOMENT,  we are then capable of being fully present to ourselves which means we have access to all of our feelings, all of our thoughts, perceptions, history( from which we learn) and much, much more. Some great spiritual warriors call the awareness of this NOW MOMENT  as the ETERNAL NOW.  The reason it is called  the ETERNAL NOW is that  all of the past is fully present and all of the possibilites of the future are as well. In contrast  the “asphalted now” closes our awareness to past and future, leaving us in a small pot-hole on our own spiritual road.

When we choose to be in the ETERNAL NOW, we  have access to the pain that our unconscious acts may have stimulated in another. We have access to our own conscience and we are able to make a true apology and ask the other’s forgiveness. And, we have the courage to end relationships with people whom appear to not care about how their actions affect us.

So, on this day in which we celebrate Freedom, I invite you to truly free yourself from your own unconsciousness. I invite you to be willing to identify how you may be harming others with unconscious acts and then just “asphalting the pain with affirmation”; or are you in relationship with someone(s) who continually stimulates pain and are you apsphalting your pain so you can say you are in this(or these) relationships; even when these relationship(s) bear no fruit, only waste.

Because I feel strongly about this, I am offering an advanced communication workshop on a donation basis. See July 5th for the information.